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Tiffany on Grief - Sun, May 18 2008

I need help! I feel like I may need to find homes for one or two of the dogs. That said let me explain. My son was recently diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder, which is a lot like Autism. He is requiring occupational, speech, developmental and horseback riding therapy each week, for the small cost of 105/wk. This doesn't include gas, or any of the therapy related toys/activites. I spend every waking moment with him trying to work on his issues with aggression, hyperactivity, and speech.

He is hyporesponsive to stimuli, so when he tries to pet the dogs, it usually neds up with him biting them and pulling their hair. I am with him every second when he is around the dogs. He can change so quickly. I am now having to lock the dogs in the garage when he goes outside in the yard.

I never thought I would be a pet parent that would get rid of a pet because I didn't have time for it. I have always believed that you make the time and effort!!! It is making me cry just typing this. I am just so physically and emotionally exhausted at the end of the day, so the furkids receive little attention.

I know training might help. Right now there is no extra money for it, and I honestly don't know how I would schedule it in.

I don't know what to do. Nothing feels like the right thing. Keeping them and not having time or energy for them seems unfair. Yet trying to place them somewhere else seems irresponsible too. They deserve a family that can interact with them in a caring way. If anybody is still reading this and has any ideas, please let me know.

Thanks
Tiffany

Ojo on May 18 at 07:56 AM

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Blessings to you during this stressful time. I wish I had more knowledge or experiences to offer you. Does he pick on all the dogs or just one? Are the dogs crate trained? Maybe you could put up baby gates to keep him from the dogs or rotate the dogs so that when he is outside, in therapy or sleeping, they are free. It's not an easy solution but if I was that stressed out over my reality, I do not think I could handle giving up my fur-babies on top of everything else. Prayers out to you and your family...

Veronica & Eddie on May 18 at 08:13 AM

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Ojo gave you some pretty good advice.

Whatever decision you do decide to make, try not to feel guilty. You have been put in a difficult situation and I'm sure you will exhaust all the other possibilities before rehoming your furkids. And if you do decide to rehome them, perhaps they could go together?

Connie on May 18 at 08:49 AM

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I can see that four dogs might be a lot in a situation like you have. Laurie was right on asking if your son has a better bond with any of them. Since he is already doing some animal therapy, I would think it would help to keep some of the dogs. I know that ICAN (a group that provides service dogs and uses prison inmates to train them) has even trained a few dogs just for hyper sensitivity because the dogs had to be trained not to bark.

DO NOT feel bad that you might have to rehome some of the dogs. I've been helping a friend of mine deal with this. She has a dog that is making her family miserable. She found a great home for the dog, but she feels guilty giving up on it. But, the dog will be going to a home with two adults who both have time to work with its behavior issues and not a home that has three kids under the age of 8 who all need attention. None of the kids like the dog anymore because it requires so much time and effort on the family's part, so I told her to let the other people have the dog and just feel happy because she found him a great home and now her own family won't be so stressed.

But, if you do want to make it work, then the baby gates, keeping the dogs in another part of the house, etc. will work. While you might feel guilty that you can't spend as much time with your dogs, they are very gracious creatures and you might find they understand more than you think.

Nancy on May 18 at 10:02 AM

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My great niece was diagnosed with this, as well, and I know it's a very time consuming thing for the parent to deal with. It sounds like you have put a lot of thought into this, and I'm sure if you do make the decision to rehome your dogs, you can reach out to some rescue organizaitons that might be able to help you.

Kris on May 18 at 03:02 PM

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Tiffany, I don't really have anything helpful to say, but I'll be praying for you and your family. Who knows why things happen, but I personally believe God has a plan. {{{hugs}}}

Amanda on May 18 at 04:21 PM

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I just want to say good luck and I really hope that you find good homes for them. It really sounds like this might be the best thing for them you sure have your hands full. You'll be in our prayers

Mama Muttblood^..^ on May 18 at 08:28 PM

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I think Laurie's suggestions are worth trying if you have the time and can hang in there. Even if you can only keep one, perhaps one your son is more bonded with, I do think rescue organizations would be willing to help with finding homes for them. Please know that you are in our prayers.

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