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Comments that make me mad

Connie on Activities - Mon, June 16 2008

I don't know why I let the comments of uninformed people upset me, but I do.

Last night I took Lexie on her first big walk. She was wonderful. I've spent two years trying to get Batman to have something between a formal heel and the pull of a sled dog. But, to no avail. Nothing I have ever tried with Batman produces a loose leash walk, other than an easy walk harness. Lexie got it down in less than five minutes and was walking just slightly behind me.

She is learning to sit when I stop.

We passed a couple pushing two small children in a stroller. The mom asked me the dog's name and I told her Lexie's story. When I told the lady how well Lexie was doing she said she was glad I was training the dog as "she looks mean."

I came SO close to telling the woman how glad I was she was keeping her children strapped in the stroller as I was terrified of children escaping and biting me. A friend of mine said I should have told her to volunteer her time at shelters as they spend lots of man hours temper testing dogs and if she can tell the mean ones just by looking it would save a lot of time.

I told the lady Lexie was a sweet girl and totally happy to learn (I did not mention she likes to play hard with cats, that isn't meanness, just her nature).

A trainer friend says short coated dogs are perceived as mean whereas fuzzy, long haired dogs come off as "nice" when people are asked to judge a dog by its looks.

At the ARPO olympics I saw a pit wearing a garland of flowers and angel wings. I may get an outfit for Lexie.

Rhonda on Jun 16 at 11:14 AM

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It's not only comments, but actions that irritate me. I was walking Jake in the small town we live near last week and and I actually had a older gentleman pick up his little ankle biter as we were approaching them. Jake paid absolutely no attention to them, but I heard the guy comment under his breath about not walking big dogs in town...WHAT?! Like I don't have a right to walk my big dog in town eventhough he is not a barker or anything while HIS little one was yapping it's fool head off at us?! Man was I ticked off. First of all, MY dog was the well behaved one secondly who in the heck thinks a big fuzz-ball like Jake looks mean? I was furious, but decided to bite me tongue and just keep walking. Next time I might take Raven and let her bite the guy.....(just kidding, Rave doesn't bite)

dreya on Jun 16 at 11:17 AM

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Turds. People can be turds. Rude turds. I've already had to debunk a few pittie myths when people see Olivia. "Well, their jaws lock, so you should be careful" or "Oh no, when they turn about seven years old, their brain swells and they go crazy". Turds, I tell ya.

Marci on Jun 16 at 11:29 AM

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Connie, I'm sure Lexie's a sweetheart. I usually worry more about kids than dogs. I have nieces that can make the tasmanian devil look calm and nice. They are extremely difficult to deal with on a bad day. I'd take just about any dog any day over them, once they get going.

I thought Charlie would get "mean" comments. He's black and fairly short furred. So far, most people have been really kind to him. I wonder if its because he's so shiny. Not a single person reacted differently to him than to Sheila (the red fuzzy one). If they pet him, its all over, though. His fur feels like silk, and then they're really hooked.

Diane on Jun 16 at 11:29 AM

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As we all know, some people are just stupid. Coming back with a great remark comes easy after your first one.
I remember the time when my daughter was a pre-teen and we were leaving White Castle after having lunch. A lady made an unfriendly remark about my daughter. I went up to the lady and told this stranger that I had a great daughter. She is cute and she will grow up to be a great lady....and she has. She is a supervisor in a big company. I hope this stranger kept her mouth shut after that. Every child is special...every dog is special.

Scouter-Roo on Jun 16 at 11:57 AM

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If you saw me snarking at Ojo, I'd give that "cuteness" theory a run for it's money! There is NOTHING Cute on me when I am nasty snarking. Mom even says - and you kiss me with those lips? I agree with others, Connie.... ignorance. At least you can kennel dogs :-)

Hoover on Jun 16 at 12:01 PM

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Me, too Roo. Everyone thinks I am an angel (I think I am) but if I get into resource guard mode, watch out!

Kris on Jun 16 at 12:02 PM

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Penny, my foster cocker spaniel, looks really sweet and she is, but she can be snarky too.

And, I love kids, but I'd much rather have dogs!

Sweet Tart North on Jun 16 at 12:59 PM

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When mom took me to Dr T the day after I got here, some lady said mean things about me. She turned to the other lady and told her how ugly I was and how awful I looked. Then she said something about taking better care of your dogs and mom went off on her. She informed her that I was NOT her dog, I was a foster they had gotten less than 24 hours before, and that she was aware that I looked horrific and that is why I was there. She also informed Miss Nosy Britches that she would never allow a dog of hers to get in such a condition-so there! Mean people suck. I wish that bad woman could see me know. I'm nice and shiny and have hair. She wouldn't even know it was me.

Mama Muttblood^..^ on Jun 16 at 01:27 PM

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Stuck on stupid. I have to wonder if people realize how they sound when comments like these come out of their mouths. I love the idea of some angel wings and a garland when you are walking Lexie. That will be not only an indicator that she is not "mean," but a conversation starter so you can actually spread some good will and education.

Rhonda on Jun 16 at 01:29 PM

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Mama Muttblood^..^ said:
Stuck on stupid. I have to wonder if people realize how they sound when comments like these come out of their mouths. I love the idea of some angel wings and a garland when you are walking Lexie. That will be not only an indicator that she is not "mean," but a conversation starter so you can actually spread some good will and education.

Wonder if I should try some wings on Jake....that would be a funny sight!

Colton on Jun 16 at 01:31 PM

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I think Lexie looks really cute and I think she would be beautiful with angel wings.

Stacy on Jun 16 at 01:39 PM

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I've been reading through these comments, and I just can't believe some of the things people say! Some people are just so rude. I get "they look mean" all the time about my girls. My own mom has said that. I guess it is the short-haired thing.

Rachael on Jun 16 at 02:45 PM

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I do my best to ignore such things. People think Gunner is aggressive, just because of his size! Mom went through the McDonald's drive through, and the cashier was terrified of Wiggles, the dog who wants nothing more than everyone to love him. Of course, Miles is the cute one and everyone loves him, but he's the one most likely to bite (he's come quite far, though).

Susana & Scott on Jun 16 at 03:02 PM

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How about this one. The other day we had our German Shepherd, Maverick, playing in the dog park with several dogs, one who was an adorable Pit Bull. There was a guy watching on the other side of the fence with his Golden Retriever. The pit bull's owner asked the guy 'is your dog (golden retriever) friendly?' and the guy responded 'to any dog except pit bulls.' Ohh bologna! The pit bull's owner was furious, she kept her mouth shut, but then told us about it and was like 'ohhh puhhhh-lease how can the dog tell breeds' They're just ignorant.

Connie on Jun 16 at 03:52 PM

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Hum, I see a book here: Stupid things people say about pets :) I like it.

Twice I had someone say something about former foster dog Amy, the sweet lump of love. I heard from Amy's new family and someone has now tried to buy her! (two kids who obviously did not want her for her sweetness). It makes me want to stomp on something.

Curt and I now make it a point that if we see any dog that has ever been singled out for breed legislation that we go up and ask if we can pet it, just so people see someone petting the "mean" ones. So many owners have thanked us for doing that.

Melissa on Jun 16 at 04:34 PM

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In one of her pictures,Lexie actually has a 'happy face.' My dox is actually meaner than the Pits & Rotts in my neighborhood. She tries to assert her dominance every time the neighborhood Pit wanders into the yard. He's a Pussycat, but Ping will nip at his feet if he gets close enough.
I get the opposite attitude when my dogs go out. Everyone wants to pet and pick them up. Ping and Priss would rather NOT be touched by other people. They don't bite, but they will growl. I'm quick to make sure no one bothers them, but occasionally people walk up to them without asking. I love my dogs, but I would rather people NOT try to pet them. That's why I don't take them everywhere.

Mama Muttblood^..^ on Jun 16 at 06:30 PM

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Connie said:
Hum, I see a book here: Stupid things people say about pets :) I like it. Twice I had someone say something about former foster dog Amy, the sweet lump of love. I heard from Amy's new family and someone has now tried to buy her! (two kids who obviously did not want her for her sweetness). It makes me want to stomp on something. Curt and I now make it a point that if we see any dog that has ever been singled out for breed legislation that we go up and ask if we can pet it, just so people see someone petting the "mean" ones. So many owners have thanked us for doing that.

That's a good idea. I may start doing that as well.

Tabitha on Jun 16 at 06:36 PM

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That is really mean and unjustified. Don't let it get to you though. Some people are ignorant and just don't know any better. We all know what a sweetheart Lexie is.

Veronica & Eddie on Jun 16 at 07:13 PM

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That's really unfortunate. I was just looking at Lexie's pictures and I think she is beautiful and has a great smile. I wish people wouldn't breed-stereotype.

Amadeus on Jun 16 at 07:33 PM

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People ask me if I'm like the psycho poodle from the incredible hulk movie...blame the media and Hollywood for our negative image by those that don't know any better. Maybe you could have called that lady Cruella...woof woof

Teaa on Jun 18 at 11:55 PM

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If someone would have told me I would ever have pitbulls in my home, I would have been appalled!!!!!! No Way!!!! They are ugly, mean, horrid animals!!!! they should all be put to sleep at birth!!!! is how I felt when i was totally naive about the breed and just listened to the "news" about them.....Totally FALSE info about pits!!!!! They are awesome dogs!!!!! Loving, gentle, SMART, unbelievably sensitive and forgiving....the BEST dogs I've ever had!!!!! xoxox to Ruthie and Freeney!!!!! the best doggies ever!!!!! and rescued from abuse at that!!!!

Stacy on Jun 19 at 09:12 AM

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Teaa said:
If someone would have told me I would ever have pitbulls in my home, I would have been appalled!!!!!! No Way!!!! They are ugly, mean, horrid animals!!!! they should all be put to sleep at birth!!!! is how I felt when i was totally naive about the breed and just listened to the "news" about them.....Totally FALSE info about pits!!!!! They are awesome dogs!!!!! Loving, gentle, SMART, unbelievably sensitive and forgiving....the BEST dogs I've ever had!!!!! xoxox to Ruthie and Freeney!!!!! the best doggies ever!!!!! and rescued from abuse at that!!!!

Thank you for sharing this. I've had doubts whether people who have a bad opinion of pits will ever change their mind. You're a good example of someone who has! Thank you for being open enough to give them a chance. The media seems to go out of their way to target them.

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